Counselling for anger management at In Touch Counselling

Anger is described in the Oxford Dictionary as “extreme or passionate displeasure”. It's an emotional state that can vary in intensity from just a small irritation to an out of control fury and rage. When a person gets angry they are likely to do or say something that they will later regret. Like other emotions, anger is accompanied by physiological and biological changes. When you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as does your adrenaline and the levels of your energy hormone.

“Anger is an emotion, a feeling which motivates an individual to action”

Caroline Archer

When our core belief is being challenged our primary instincts become activated and our fight, flight or freeze responses are triggered. However, anger doesn't always have to be a negative experience. The positive roles that anger can play are, connecting you to your core feelings and needs, alerting you to threats or danger and helping you to protect yourself, alerting you to something that needs to change, motivating you to take action towards resolving a problem or it can give you the power and energy to act. There are several ways of expressing anger positively. By doing something strenuous like digging the garden, working out at the gym or taking part in a sporting activity will release the adrenaline. On the other hand sometimes it's good to have a long soak in the bath, breathe slowly and do relaxation exercises, or pray. Whenever you feel anger coming on try to divert the feelings by changing your thinking and your actions.

Some of the physical sensations that affect us when expressing anger are, muscle tension, flushing of the face, neck or head, rapid breathing, and increased sweating of the palms and forehead.

There are different ways that we respond to our anger. We can either pretend that nothing is wrong, lose our temper, withdraw and sulk or use passive aggression or sarcasm. You can learn to control your anger through counselling and therapy. Some of the ways of managing your anger are to learn to recognize your own physical sensations that trigger angry feelings and behaviour.